I saw this poster the other day, and it almost made me mad. All I could think was, “No, it won’t.”
You’ve heard it a million times: Everything happens for a reason. I know really great people who truly believe that. But I don’t. I think some things happen for no reason at all: good things, bad things, everything in the middle.
I think the “for a reason” sentiment is a coping mechanism. If you can believe there is meaning in the pain you feel now, then it’s not so bad. Maybe my belief that there is no reason at all for so many things is my coping mechanism.
Stuff will happen. If there is a lesson to be learned, by all means, learn, grow, mature from the experience. But everything doesn’t mean something in the bigger picture. Sometimes you’ll never know why. And it will just be whatever it was.
One day, this pain might make less sense than it does now. That’s life.